do you know how difficult it is to feel secure in your looks and personality and overall self when absolutely no one has ever shown any interest in you whatsoever like yeah you shouldn’t base all of your self-confidence on other people but still there’s like always that irritating little voice inside of you that tells you that you’ve never been worth a second glance or getting to know for anyone and you can try to ignore it all you want but it’s still there

Anonymous asked:

This guy and I were making out and he began to try and finger me, but I kept pulling his hand away. I'm not ready to do anything like that, especially because we are just hanging out. Is there any way to avoid that?

Guys will be guys, and naturally that means they will try to get you as far as you will go. If it starts happening again, tell him no, and tell him that if it happens again you’re going to leave. If he persists then you seriously need to talk to him about it, and tell him that you’re not ready and you don’t want to. If he’s a good friend he should understand. Otherwise he’s not worth it. Also with guys, just keep pushing them away, don’t give in and just let them do it or they will think it’s okay to always do that. Show them that you have control over your own body, and that they need the okay from you before going anything. After all it is your body, and your choice xxxxx

Anonymous asked:

this guy&I have been friends since birth&our families have a lot of history& he is friends with my cousin. Over the past couple years we have started having feelings for eachother, except at different times. So when I began to like him he got in this long year and a half relationship with this girl so we had nothing. He broke up with this girl two weeks ago and when we were hanging out he started to kiss me. I don't know if I like him like that& if he just wanted to hook up or not, what do I do?

You guys have known each other for ages, so I think you should just talk to him about it. See if what happened was just a hook up, and we was just sad after his break up. Or if he actually really likes you. The only way you’re going to find out for sure is to ask him, other wise you will get too confused trying to read him. Also you need to see if you like him, it’s all well and good for him to like you but if it’s not mutual then nothing’s going to happen. Just because you liked him before doesn’t mean that if he likes you now, you have to like him back. He’s recently had a break up so just make sure he’s not just lonely and looking for the easiest hookup (sounds bad but might be true). Try and see if he will just go out with you to like the movies or something, without kissing. If he starts kissing you push him away; you need to see if he will go out with you and not just make out the whole time. Communication is key though! So make sure you talk to him about it! xxx